My next post was supposed to be a fun and light-hearted piece about a really cool musician I recently discovered. However, other events have shifted my focus to something a lot more serious: homophobia. Let me dive into what happened…
I woke up this morning, looked through my emails from bed as always, and gasped in horror at a comment I had received on my music profile. I will post it here verbatim:
“You sir are a fucking faggot. Have you ever fucking took singing lessons? My dog could do better then you! Hell my gay cousin getting ass raped is better! Just quit life you raging homo!”
Ouch! What did I do to deserve than venom? Absolutely nothing. Yet, this person seems to harbor a lot of hatred for me, someone they don’t even know. A critique of my singing would have sufficed. I respect other people’s opinions and I know my voice is not everyone’s cup of tea. I never claimed to be some amazing singer. It’s just something I love to do. On the other hand, viciously attacking my character with gay slurs and making light of rape is utterly unacceptable. I am thoroughly disgusted and angered. I haven’t encountered this level of hate in a long time. Luckily, I’m strong enough to handle it. So many LGBT youth out there are not, though. 😦
Homophobia is alive and well in the world. Just when I start to have faith that the world is progressing and becoming a more accepting place, this bomb drops out of thin air. So disheartening. First of all, I don’t need to be told I’m a faggot. I know I’m gay, thanks. And very proud of it. Second, how could you say something so vile about your own cousin? Rape is never something to joke about. It’s horrendous. I just hope your cousin has supportive and loving family members to surround himself with. No one needs to be around such toxicity. And no, I’m not going to go kill myself. Five years ago I might have. But, I love and accept myself now. No outside opinion will change that. You’re just going to have to deal with it, buddy.
I blocked this user and reported the comment to site support. I don’t want anyone else to be disrespected and attacked by this evil person. Oddly enough, the song this loser posted on is my most popular song with 88 downloads and 422 total plays. It seems quite a few people like my singing voice and don’t care about my sexual orientation…who would have thought?!
This experience just inspires me to be even more unapologetic for who I am. I will not and I cannot change. Homophobic people need to change. Or stay hateful if you must. But please, just let the rest of us be happy. Don’t worry about our lives, because we certainly don’t give two fucks what you do in the bedroom. Just be sure to use protection. 😉
Love and light,
~Jonathan
Asylum Attendant 
It’s pretty horrible how stupid and hateful some people still are. I always hope they are trolls, because such ignorance is way scarier than bored people insulting others without actually meaning it. I’m glad you handle it so strongly, there are many people out there who would really break down under words like that.
Yeah, let’s hope it was a troll. Thank you for your kind words. 🙂 I’m very sad that some kids take hate to heart.
Ah, one of the unfortunate side effects of having an “Internet presence” is leaving yourself open to that kind of foolishness – you handled it exactly how I do, though. Just see it, accept it for what it is, remove and move on! Seems to me like the only way – never engage in it, because that’ll always just drag you down instead of lifting the other person up.
When I started this online persona, I had a feeling I would eventually encounter some negativity. Anything different will always get attacked. I’m happy to hear you let the hate roll off your back as well. 🙂 I really admire all that you do, friend. ❤
This sort of thing makes me sick. Of course, that guy who commented on your music seems to have the emotional maturity of a 12-year-old. Kind of pathetic really. He even goes “You sir” as if he’s the voice of reason in this. (Which he probably imagines himself to be in his deluded little mind.)
Fuck homophobia, and fuck that litlle gobshite.
The site removed the comment on the grounds of abuse and issued a warning to the user, so that’s good. Maybe he will learn a lesson. Or at least keep his horrible views to himself from now on.
I’ll keep fighting against the haters if you will, Tommy. They’ll lose every time. 😀 ❤
It’s good that something was actually done about it. Kind of surprising, too, since a lot of the time, these things are ignored completely.
You know I will. 😉
Mornin’ friend. The way you are handling this FREAKIN’ TROLL is the way to go. MILLIONS of people around the world have to wake up EVERY day and throw on their armour in order to fend off the blows of ill-informed, ignorant and poorly-raised/enlightened people.
Homophobia, racism, sexism, ECONOMISM……these are ALL the animal proclivities of an ignorant human race that will unfortunately take MANY decades to erase. All we can do is gain strength from the fact that we are ALL part of the most important epoch of CHANGING human behavior
SMILE my friend, WE are on a journey to save our souls. These trolls HAVE to be “water off a duck’s back” so that we can move forward. Hate to put it in military terms, but WE are the SOLDIERS OF LOVE!
Have a GREAT Spring!
See ‘ya!
We’re building an army, an army of love! I take comfort in knowing I’m not alone in the fight for acceptance and equality. Change takes time, but as long as we give and receive as much love as possible, that positivity has to stick. Thanks for your amazing support as always!
I am SO ready for Spring btw. It’s the perfect time for a change. 🙂
Oh hate, you truly are evil. It depresses me to read stuff like this. Vampires, demons, a guy with a mask and a chainsaw…nothing. Ignorance is what true nightmares are made out of. It amazes me how some people can be so unaccepting, like their belief system is what should be the standard to define normal and natural. I hate to break the news to this person (the word I really want to use is not proper), but normal and natural are individualized, not a collective agreement among the uninformed.
I’m so sorry you had to go through this.
Thank you so much for your kind words. 🙂 I would rather the bullies attack me than an innocent kid in high school. I’m strong enough now to just let the hate roll off my shoulders.